Resources
Blog
When Saying No Feels Unsafe
Sometimes saying no doesn’t just feel uncomfortable. It can feel unsafe. Understanding why can be the beginning of changing the pattern.
When Coping Stops Working
Explore why coping strategies like overthinking, staying busy, people-pleasing, or shutting down can stop helping over time, and how therapy can support your nervous system in finding a steadier way forward.
The Parent Behind the Child
Explore the often-unseen emotional strain of raising a neurodivergent child, including exhaustion, grief, guilt, and the importance of having a space where the parent can also feel supported.
Why Understanding Yourself Isn’t the Same as Healing
Explore why understanding the origins of a pattern is not always enough to change it, and how healing can begin when the body learns to feel safe enough to respond differently.
Why Nothing Changes Until You Stop Fighting Yourself
Explore how self-criticism can keep you stuck, why it often develops as a form of protection, and how lasting change becomes possible through safety, self-compassion, and a more accepting relationship with yourself.
The Pattern Was Once Protection
Explore how patterns like anxiety, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the need for control may have once helped you cope, and how understanding their origins can create space for greater self-compassion and change.
Recommended Videos
Grounding Exercises for Anxiety
CAMH
Grounding Exercise for Racing Minds
Headspace
Books
No Bad Parts
Richard Schwartz
An introduction to working with the different parts of yourself, including the ones you would rather not have.
Anchored
Deb Dana
What your nervous system is doing when you feel shut down, on edge, or both at once.
Complex PTSD
Pete Walker
Written for people whose difficulty began early and lasted a long time. Many readers find it names something they have never seen named.
What Happened to You?
Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey
A gentle place to start if heavier books on trauma feel like too much right now.
Self-Compassion
Kristin Neff
For anyone who speaks to themselves in a way they would never speak to someone they love.
The Body Keeps the Score
Bessel van der Kolk
Widely read and worth reading, though it covers difficult material closely. Often best read alongside therapy rather than before it.
These are resources I have found useful. The organizations and authors listed are not affiliated with InnerField Psychotherapy.